Write about the things that have shaped or boosted my self-confidence.
This indirectly means I’ll also be writing about ways that I’ve disliked/punished myself. Combining the two lets me offer solutions to one of the realest, hardest problems a person could ever solve.
Personal Phrases & Concepts:
- You are player 1 of your own game » This can be re-worded in a way that suits each person. As a gamer, this phrasing makes sense to me: I wouldn’t play a game that did nothing but berate me, or that re-arranged my life to discard potentially interesting routes of exploration.
- Rewording: You are the main character in your own story
- You get 1 life » why spend it disliking yourself?
- You are not a failure just because you didn’t do X. Nothing bad you might do could mean anything so total as that.
- Actions become habits, and habits become who you are as a person.
- Where did those negative ideas about yourself come from? What are they actually based on?
- You are such a caring, supportive, nourishing, giving, attentive, person. You’ve spent your life making conscious efforts to be better at helping others and finding new ways to care for them. You really are a deeply loving person, and it shows in your sons, in your grandchildren, and especially in me — I wouldn’t be the person I am now without your help, and you’ve always been there for me when you could be.Â
- Alistair + abandoning the reality where he hates me
From Other People:
- CBT » Anthropomorphising my negative self-talk, looking at it like a person who’s just insulting me all the time.